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The heart and gratitude shines through. And it’s sooo hard

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Ah, you know it is! It *is* difficult... And thanks for that compliment!

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Apr 9Liked by Cheniece Patrick

I’m glad your husband is supporting you and bitterness and grief ARE normal. In fact I just wrote a long piece on the reality of resentment

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Oh yes! I'm blessed in that way. It's way normal. You wrote a piece on this too? I'm heading over to read it.

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Apr 9Liked by Cheniece Patrick

My husband was clueless and I hold a lot of resentments towards him because of it. In fact I have had enough of this marriage but I can’t leave due to finances. Cost of living is hard enough for us. It would be impossible to be single. Canada is unaffordable.

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Maybe you should communicate with him about your needs. He might not even know about how you feel...

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Apr 9Liked by Cheniece Patrick

I have and he says he’s sorry but again he refuses to look into it further. We are just roommates and I pretty much live my own life anyway. We just have to live under the same roof. Better than being homeless though.

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Oh, I'm SO sorry that this is happening now. I hope things can change for the better, whatever that may look like!

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Apr 9Liked by Cheniece Patrick

Thank you. Hes not a bad guy and really expects very little out of me. I think he realizes to never push my firmed up boundaries. But I have a lot of deep seated resentments towards him from over the years for various reasons and we have become very incompatible. I’m trying to make the best of it for the time being. I have no other option if I don’t want to be miserable. I don’t and grateful he gives me the space I need. Not a good example for my daughter but I made it clear both of us failed at communicating. I’m responsible for my part too but it’s also too late for forgiving and forgetting as well.

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