How I Find True Happiness That Lasts

It's the simple things for me

It's afternoon time while I'm writing this. To my left, I can see two new block-stacking toys (already missing pieces) covered in donut and cookie crumbs. The kids have been having a blast today. I can hear their laughter ring out from different areas of our home while they run around and play Tag with each other. Just the certainty of hearing this sound again is usually enough to make me wake up each day. I can't say that I'm necessarily happy having to change the quantity of diapers required for two toilet un-trained toddlers on the autism spectrum. But let's face it -- I'd cross literal dimensions for these two who are currently competing for a spot in my lap. There's not enough room to share, you see.

When I compare the things that make me happy today versus what used to do it when I was a young girl, I almost laugh at the difference. The affection of any long-haired boy who gave me an ounce of attention has been substituted by the secure, familiar partnership between me and my husband. Friends in high places have been replaced by two unemployed young people who can't even vote and need me for some reason or another at all hours of the day. Cheap wine has been replaced with much nicer wine, but mostly by a bottle of vitamin water. And Anne Rice by Tolstoy.

My happiness isn't fleeting, either. I've embraced the impermanence of all things, but the quality of my happiness these days definitely feels more deeply seated and long-lasting. In other words, losing my car keys for a moment won't send me from feeling chill to having a completely sour day. I don't come apart at these relatively "little" things because the "good stuff" -- the things that give me this mature type of happiness -- aren't threatened or disturbed by them. The grocery store being out-of-stock of some item has no effect on the warm comfort within my home, the smile on my kids' faces, or how I view myself. What a relief to be able to live out a unique life of my own and not worry about how that looks to the person next to me!

The thing that I've learned that has been the most helpful to know is... I have a choice. The decision to cultivate mindfulness and to pause and reflect on the present moment is mine to make. Instead of looking for the big, significant, and dynamic parts of life to determine my happiness, I've found that it's much easier to notice the small things around me that go unnoticed most of the time. I've learned that these "small" moments of happiness are the actual building blocks of a fulfilling and meaningful life. And there is no shortage of these moments to be had. Whether it's watching my children giggle uncontrollably at an annoyingly loud cartoon, sharing a meaningful conversation with a relative or friend, or simply taking a moment to breathe and be still, these moments remind me of life's inherent beauty and magic.

There is so much for me to be grateful for... I almost feel guilty for feeling anything other than thankfulness, but I realize that this is just part of my human experience. Using my ability to make a decision again, I choose to view the glass as half-full, and I appreciate what I do have instead of complain about what I don't have. Making small efforts like this has really made a huge difference in my life. I've watched how simply giving thanks for the things that I love has increased their supply in my life. This is a Universal law that is in effect all of the time, believe it or not. And I use it to my advantage. (I have a post coming up soon on here about that very subject, so be watching out for it!)

I invite you to join me on a journey of embracing true happiness. Take a moment each day to pause, reflect, and find joy in the simple, small things that surround you. Notice the beauty in nature, the kindness in others, and the love in your heart. Remember, happiness isn't about what you have or what you achieve; it's about how you choose to see the world and the moments you choose to cherish.

Journaling Prompts:

1. What are three simple pleasures that bring you joy in your daily life?

2. Reflect on a recent moment of happiness or gratitude. What made it special? How did it make you feel?

3. How can you incorporate more moments of joy and mindfulness into your daily routine?

4. What are you grateful for today? Take a moment to list five things you're thankful for right now.

5. How can you cultivate a mindset of positivity and gratitude, even in challenging times?

Remember, happiness is a choice, and it's yours to embrace. So, here's to finding joy in the little things and living a life filled with gratitude, love, and happiness.